Tenets of Leykis 101

Tom Leykis is a well known radio personality who for several years hosted “The Tom Leykis Show” in sindication across the United States.  In February 2009 he left the air due to a format change and just recently came back via his new podcast available at: http://www.blowmeuptom.com

While is show is sensationalist and been defined as masochistic by many, it offered many nuggets of useful information for those of us men out there that never had an appropriate father figure to teach us about women, dating and the pitfalls to avoid.

Typically, Leykis discusses one topic per hour. He will introduce the topic by reading a news article or peer-reviewed study, or by discussing a personal anecdote or experience. He will then accept callers for discussion and debate.

The cornerstone of the program is the Thursday broadcast of “Leykis 101″, in which the program is set up as an ad hoc lecture and question and answer session, over which Leykis presides as a self-styled “professor”. The subject of the “101” segments are how men can spend less money on women, while achieving greater sexual and personal success.[15][44] The intent of his advice is to serve as a father figure for his mostly-male listeners, many of whom were raised without a father. Thus, many callers address Leykis as “Dad” of “Father.”

Along with general information on life for young men, Leykis’s 101 advice mostly consists of his principles of looking out for oneself. He argues that the institution of marriage is flawed and that family court systems are often corrupt because DNA testing after childbirth is not mandatory to prevent paternity fraud, and because courts have forced men to pay child support even after DNA testing has established that a man was not actually a child’s father. Other examples of Leykis 101 guidelines include never dating single mothers or co-workers; never cohabiting with a woman; using birth control during each sexual encounter; and immediately ending a relationship if a woman issues an ultimatum.

Leykis constantly recommends that young men pursue their career or educational goals and not be distracted by serious relationships or marriage at a young age as he was. Leykis describes many women as “dream killers”[45] (i.e., he argues that in dating or marriage women will typically prioritize their desires above a man’s, and will actively discourage mens’ ambitions for fear of him leaving the relationship if he attains success). Furthermore, Leykis urges men to live frugally, including avoiding consumer debt (what Leykis describes as “renting money”); never spending more than $40 for a date; and saving cash and investing for the future.[46] He has described men who neglect their bills as “immoral”.[47]

In appreciation of his return along with the advice he offers I would like to present you with “The Tenets of Leykis 101″.  While I do not agree completely with the below list and much of it is tailored to be entertaining, there is useful information to be had even if it’s just the realization of how dating sometimes works.

1) Spending Limits

Never spend more then $40 on a date. In fact she should be the one paying for the date.

Especially if you have to go on several dates before reaching your goal, this can make the girls very expensive. How do you do this? There’s several ways to cut costs. If you are going out to dinner, eat first. Then at dinner, just order a salad or bowl of soup. What girl is going to eat more than the guy, especially if it’s the first dates? Does she want to look like a little piggy in front of him?

Another way is to steal the dinner. When you’re asking her out, say something like “Well, what time are you eating dinner?” She might think you’re asking her to dinner–but no. When she gives an answer, like “Oh, I was thinking about 7:30,” you make your move. Say, “Ok, and about an hour and a half to eat, I’ll pick you up at 9 and we can get some drinks?” You’ve done it. She’ll probably look dumbfounded for a second, or think that you are a little “dense,” but you have just won. That’s an entire dinner you don’t have to pay for. The money can be better spent on getting her liquored up and getting her back to her place for some fun.

2) 3 Date Rule 

This one can be the hardest to follow, but abide by it. Girls know within the first 5 minutes how far they will go with you, and will probably do so at the earliest possible time. If you’ve been crossed off the “I’ll sleep with him” list, it’s very, very difficult and time consuming to get back on it.

Your time is better spent chasing new prospects. If you’re on the list, however, you can screw it up by being a jackass. If nothing’s happened in 3 dates, it’s time to move on. You’ll never sleep with her. The only time you should see her again is if there is guaranteed sex. Continuing to persue her will just cost you more money and waste more of your time.

3) Single Mothers 

Single Mothers
Why? You already know their stance on abortion: they won’t have one. Don’t risk paying vaginamony or child support. Her kids will always be #1 in her life, and do you really want to be second-place in a relationship? I didn’t think so. Why support another man’s mistake? How do you know she’s not looking for a support figure? Or someone to support her financially? Think of all that, and realize that the odds are stacked against you. She’s already had one mistake. She won’t go for the Hail Mary (more on that below). The last guy didn’t stick around. Why should you?

This isn’t to say that some of them aren’t very nice, have been screwed over by ex-husbands, or would be very great mates. But if you’re just looking to get laid, they are a definite off-limits. More than likely, you’re hooking up with a girl who wants another try at something she messed up the first time. With the hostility of today’s legal system towards men, you just don’t want to take the chance.

4) Tabasco Rule

Use a condom everytime during sex and when you’re done, dispose of it good. Flush it down the toilet. If that’s not possible, try to carry some really, really hot sauce with you. Habanero or something. Put some inside the used condom. There are several cases where girls have taken the contents of the condom and inserted them into herself, in an attempt to get pregnant. Why? Child support and she’s set. Especially if you have money. Do not just leave it lying around. If you use the hot sauce method, and you hear her scream, take your stuff and RUN. If you’re the risky type, stick around and sue her for attempted extortion. The pain will ensure she won’t be able to get pregnant for a little while (her area is very sensitive to changes like that). Oh, and it will avoid STD’s

5) Dating Co-workers

Dipping your friend in the company ink is a strict no-no. In fact, you should not engage in any conversation with a woman at work unless it directly relates to work. Do not compliment them. Do not ask them out to dinner. Your conversation outside of work should be limited to Good (Night/Afternoon/Evening). If you go beyond this, you’re a lawsuit waiting to happen. If you do date a coworker and you break up, things can get tense around the office (especially if it was a nasty breakup). She can sabotage your career or, worse, file lawsuits claiming sexual harassment. At the minimum, you will have to see her every day, and maybe collaborate with her frequently. It’s just not worth it.

The courts are very hostile towards men in this regard as well, so just play it safe. If women want to be engaged in normal conversation, they can lobby the courts to be more lenient first. We’re not going to risk our future to try to get a date with someone who, for all we know, is waiting for a guy to say “nice skirt” so she can claim sexual harassment and settle for a large sum of money. The only time you should date a co-worker is if you don’t care about your job.

If you feel that you have been sexually harassed then report it! If do not report it then it means that it is acceptable for a women to sexually harass men.

6) Women In Groups

Girls travel in packs when they’re not looking to hook up. It lets the not-so-hot girls get as much attention as the real babes in the group. It’s almost impossible to get one alone, much less take one home. Most likely, if you approach a girl in a pack, one will act as a “blocker,” stalling you from your real girl. Chances are, when women are in a group, that someone is sober enough to tell her know, and insist that she go home with them. Just don’t pay them any attention. Don’t buy them drinks. Take a number, maybe, but don’t pursue them.

7) Sex to Go 

No spooning. No cuddling. No staying over. In and Out. This might be hard, might be easy, but if you do these things you’re sending her a very clear message: you’re interested in a serious relationship. That’s the only time these kind of actions are appropriate.

8) Relationships and Long-Term Commitments 

The general rule is, don’t have a serious long-term relationship until you’re 25. If you’re in a committed relationship, it says you’re ready to settle down. Get everything out of your system first. The three-ways, the one-night-stands, the fetish girls, the fantasies. Wait until you’re in the 30’s before you marry. Since you should have a well-established career by then, you’ll be able to have a steady marriage and kids, if you choose to have them, will be in a steady, well-supported household. Remember, once kids are involved, there is no such thing as separation. She will always be involved. Even if you leave she can make you pay child support. Make sure you are ready to have kids and make sure both of you agree on it.

If you’re under 25, you should not have a girlfriend. You should be having fun and sleeping with as many people as possible. Some men do mature at different rates. If you’re ready for marriage or kids, go for it. Just remember that over 51% of marriages fail. You had better be damn sure of it, or you will be paying for it the rest of your life. Marriages where both parties are older than 25 have a much, much higher success rate. Children raised in solid households are much less likely to be social delinquents. Think about that.

9) Weekend Dating

Do you want to look like a loser who has nothing better to do on weekends than wait for her to call? You should not answer calls from potential booty calls is Thursday-Sunday, unless it is guaranteed poon. You have to make the girl believe that she has competition. That your time is valuable. That you have better things to do on weekends than spend time with her. Are you with another girl? Are you in the bars? Important meeting? Keep her guessing. It will intrigue her. And a basic rule of humanity: we want what we can’t have. If you make her believe she can’t have you, she’ll be that much easier to bag when you “let her in.” Even if you have nothing to do, let her leave a voice mail. You’re busy (banging other chicks, for all she knows). Call her back on Monday night. If you do call, never leave a voicemail: she’ll be wondering what you wanted and if you made other plans.

10) Cell Phones and Dating 

If a girl answers a cell-phone call in the middle of dinner, get up and leave. Why? The person on the other end is the guy she’s going to have sex with when she finally gets rid of you. If she says it’s her kids, you’re already violating the no-single-mothers rule. Her work? It’s a date and it’s late, if her work is more important than you now, it will always be more important. If she says its her friends, all her friends know she’s out. That’s just how women work. She can just turn the phone off and wait to gossip until the date is over.

You, on the other hand, should carry a cell phone. Avoid answering it during dinner, but have your buddies makes a call or two. Talk into a dead phone. Set up something to send you some text messages. Ignoring her for “work” makes you look important and in control. She will try to test you and get your attention on her. Sex might be part of the attention-getting hunt.

11) Women In Bars 

A wingman can be helpful to break up a pair of girls or get them at your table, but going alone can be just fine. If you’re desperate, just leave. Girls can smell that a mile away. You don’t approach girls. That has a small stink of desperation, and if the girls in the bar see you get rejected once, you’re pretty much shot then and there. You sit at the bar or at a small, private table. You have your money on the table (it’s the closest we have to “make horny” horomones). You dress nice, in darker clothing. You want to appear dark, mysterious, etc. Have a drink or two, and just watch the action. Scan the room. See who you want to have sex with. Sooner or later, girls are going to approach you. Wonder if you’re waiting on someone. Or if you’re just lonely. Just agree with whatever they say. By not approaching, you’re not buying girls drinks that you have no chance with. Girls who approach you will likely sleep with you. You’ve already made the list. Now you just have to close the deal.

12) Birth Control 

You’re using birth control, and so should she. There’s about 12 different forms of birth control out there, they can’t be allergic to all of them. The pill is NOT the only form. If a girl is not on birth control, she wants to have a baby. Maybe not right away, maybe not with you, but if it happens she won’t be too upset. Do not, under any circumstances, stick it in without a condom. Even if she says she’s on the pill. It’s easy to say that they’re taking it and they could, for all you know, throw the “taken” pills away. Maybe they missed a dose. You just don’t know. Don’t trust, be safe.

13) Gifts

Unles she’s your wife, never buy a woman a gift.

It will get them thinking what else they can get out of you. If you HAVE to buy a gift for a girl, getting jewelry is probably the worst idea. Girls take jewelry as a sign of committment. Getting her jewelry will either scare her off because of committment, or drive her more into committment, which you don’t want to do unless you plan on marrying the girl.

14) Beverage Consumption

If using alcohol is your method of entry, then never buy a women beer or a light liquor. Not only will she not get the buzz your looking for but will be taking a piss all night long. Leykis 101 students buy their women harder liquor such as Yaegermeister, tequila shots, long islands, etc.

Women and Alcohol:
Are Women More Vulnerable to Alcohol’s Effects?
“Women appear to be more vulnerable than men to many adverse consequences of alcohol use. Women achieve higher concentrations of alcohol in the blood and become more impaired than men after drinking equivalent amounts of alcohol. Research also suggests that women are more susceptible than men to alcohol-related organ damage and to trauma resulting from traffic crashes and interpersonal violence. This Alcohol Alert examines gender differences in alcohol’s effects and considers some factors that may place women at risk for alcohol-related problems.”

“Women absorb and metabolize alcohol differently than men. In general, women have less body water than men of similar body weight, so that women achieve higher concentrations of alcohol in the blood after drinking equivalent amounts of alcohol (5,6). In addition, women appear to eliminate alcohol from the blood faster than men. This finding may be explained by women’s higher liver volume per unit lean body mass (7,8), because alcohol is metabolized almost entirely in the liver (9).”

* National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism No. 46 December 1999

15) Types of Dates 

No Coffee, breakfast, or lunch dates.

Why? They’re non-threatning. There’s no booze. There’s good lighting. All the advantages a bar or club are gone. Girls say, “well they’re no-pressure situations,” or “i don’t feel like anything is expected of me afterwards.” This, guys, means: I don’t feel like I need to, or should, have sex with him afterwards.” This is bad! It might sound “mean,” but you want them to feel pressure. You want their inhibitions a little lower. You want them to feel like something is expected of them. Your chances for getting laid increase dramatically. Nobody ever got laid after a coffee-shop date. There’s no point in going. Just say no.

16) Jerks and *******s 

We are *******s and jerks.

That’s right. If you follow these rules, you’ll probably be called an *******. Wear it with pride. “Nice Guys” don’t get laid. Ever notice how all the hot girls keep complaining about guys they hooked up with who turned out to be *******s? You could be that guy! The guy who has his way with her one night, then leaves the next day and is never heard from again. Or maybe hooks up with her for a few weeks, then she finds out he has another girl on the side. Hey, you never agreed to monogamy, right?

17) After the Date 

Take her home and do not stop for food.

She’s just been drinking all night, and now you’re taking her home (see above). Hopefully to get some action. You want to minimze the distance from drinking to sex. If she asks you to stop at a fast-food restaurant, or diner, she’s stalling. She knows she’s a little drunk, and is trying to buy some time/food to sober up. Sober up so she won’t sleep with you. You don’t want this to happen: don’t do it. Avoiding it is relatively easy AND sets you up for a quick exit later. If she asks, say that you have to work early the next day. You’ll drop her off there. Then take off. If she can’t get another ride home, she’ll drop the idea. If she can, she’ll probably be having sex with the booty call/ride after you leave anyway. If you get back to her place and get it on, you then have an excuse to get out fast: you’re even later for bed than you were before. You gotta get going. In and out.

18) Eating Before Date 

The idea goes back to our Spending Limits rule. Eat a hearty meal before you go out on a date with her. That way, when you take her out to dinner, you just eat a green salad and save money. No woman wants to eat more than you.

19) Marriage Contract

Today, marriage is like a merging of two corporations. If you get married, you each take on half of each other’s assets. That is, unless you sign a prenuptual agreement. Even that isn’t guaranteed. If you have her sign it very close to the wedding, the agreement can be contested in court as having been signed “under duress.” In fact, if you have a date set already and ask her to sign, it can be thrown out. Make sure to have the prenuptual agreement signed before setting a date. You should keep separate accounts. Buy your toys with your money. She won’t get half of them if you can prove you alone funded them. Keep a shared account for bills and everything, but a private account for toys.

20) You Choose the Date 

You’re making the money that’s paying for the date. You can decide what to do, where to go, and how long to do it for. If the woman pays for everything, great, you can do what she wants. The person who’s paying is the person who decides. Otherwise, you might get stuck going to a ballet or musical when you’d rather see a movie and booze it up. Worse, she will pick the mostexpensive restaurant or activity possible, to see if you will pony up. Having a firm plan shows that you’re in control.

21) Income and Women 

Your income generally determines the type of woman you will get.

It’s not often that you see a really rich guy with a really ugly girl on his arm. But you quite often see really amazing girls on the arm of homely but rich guys. Look at rock stars — some of the ugliest guys on earth (like Steven Tyler), but they get laid more than you can ever hope to. Money and power will attract women just as much as a 12″ personality. You have to work hard on your career. Strive high. Don’t settle. Stay hungry. Girls upgrade all the time, and guys should to. If you have to, you can lie about your income. How is she going to know you’re not really a doctor at 11:30pm after a couple Long Islands? Say your car is in the shop, and you’re driving a loaner. Or rent a nice car (Jags work well) for a night out. If you’re truly desperate, write your phone number on an ATM receipt that shows a very large bank balance (how will she know it’s not yours?)

You must never tell a girl exactly how much you make. It gets them thinking about what you can afford to woo them with. Worse, it can get them thinking about how to spend your money. Show them that you have lots of money, maybe let them think they can get their hands on it, but never let them. Go as cheap as possible. The rich didn’t get rich by spending 100 bucks getting girls drunk. Stick with the 40 dollar rule.

22) Male Friends

Generally speaking, make friends want to have sex with their female friends.

Or they’re gay. Why? If the guy didn’t find the girl attractive in the first place, he probably wouldn’t have spent time with her in the first place. They just didn’t close the deal. Maybe they didn’t make a move in time and have gone into the dreaded “friend zone.” Maybe the guy was committed to another girl and was trying to keep his options open, so he keeps her around. Trust me. If they both get drunk together and she offers sex, he will take her up on it. Be very wary of girls that spend too much time with their guy friends.

23) No Sex at House 

Never bring a woman back to your place.

Do you really want her to know where you live after you’ve dumped her and moved on to the next one? Do you want her dropping over uninvited on weekend nights, just to “see if you’re around?” No? Don’t go back to your place.

24) Compliments 

Never compliment a women.

It gives them a sense of power. You want to be in control. You don’t want to let them think they can manipulate you. It raises her self-esteem and will probably lessen your chance of getting laid.

25) Easily Replaceable

Your goal is to make a girl feel like she matters and that she is easily replaceable. Make sure that she knows this. On nights she doesn’t put out then call one of your other booty calls for the evening.

Even if you do not have a booty call to visit, do not admit it to the girl that will not sleep with you. This will up her competitive spirit to get you staying around longer. In the spirit of competition, always check out girls that are hotter and younger than the girl you are with. If she calls you on it, admit it. She will feel threatened and it might give her more incentive to sleep with you.

26) Holidays

There are several important events that girls really want a guy around for. Christmas Eve and Day, New Year’s Eve (but not Day), Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, her or your birthdays, etc. If you’ve been with a girl a while when one of these is comin up, dump her. You’ll save yourself the money that you woulda spent buying her a present, and there’s a lot of lonely chicks out there who want to be with somebody–anybody. Girls like the one you dumped are out looking to feel validated on the holidays, so you go out and go on the hunt. Your appeal will be much higher as a man during these times. Sticking around with a girl during these times plants long-term thoughts in her head. You don’t want that.

27) Change is Not Inevitable 

Some women have this idea that men are there to be molded and changed to suit their needs. This becomes more prevalent after a man has married.

Your friends, Your interests. When you watch “the game.” She can be welcome to supplement your activities but if she insists you stop, you insist she leaves. Women love fixer-uppers. Thats why shows like Trading Spaces and Queer Eye for the Straight Guy exist. Girls think they can take a guy that makes good money and is pretty good looking, and turn him into their fantasy man. Don’t let them do it. Your friends and habits were there before she was. She took you as you were. If she’s not happy with it, she’s the one that changed and she needs to deal with it. Women: we don’t get hints. Nagging won’t help. In fact, if you nag, it’s more likely to make us keep doing what you hate, just to spite you. You took the good with the bad, if you don’t like what they were doing before you got together, you shouldn’t have got together.

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