In sex, happiness hinges on keeping up with your peers


News flash, science has how supported the notion that happiness directly correlates to whether you are having sex and more importantly if you are having less than those around you, both in your peer group and surrounding community of competition.

A study by the University of Boulder Colorado has found:

Using national survey data and statistical analyses, Wadsworth found that people reported steadily higher levels of happiness as they reported steadily higher sexual frequency. But he also found that even after controlling for their own sexual frequency, people who believed they were having less sex than their peers were unhappier than those who believed they were having as much or more than their peers.

“There’s an overall increase in sense of well-being that comes with engaging in sex more frequently, but there’s also this relative aspect to it,” he said. “Having more sex makes us happy, but thinking that we are having more sex than other people makes us even happier.”

One could say this is true in other areas of life such as income, wealth, profession or social circle. While I agree, one’s ability to attract and ultimately win over desirable women is a concentrate of all aspects of one’s self. Society and experience has taught us that these women worth pursuing put a higher value and are more stringent on those they would share a bed with than your run of the mill woman.

After controlling for many other factors, including income, education, marital status, health, age, race and other characteristics, respondents who reported having sex at least two to three times a month were 33 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness than those who reported having no sex during the previous 12 months.

The happiness effect appears to rise with frequency. Compared to those who had no sex in the previous year, those reporting a once-weekly frequency were 44 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness. Those reporting having sex two to three times a week are 55 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness.

Many in the community state that you should put personal growth above the pursuit of women. While this has its merits as we aren’t putting them on a pedestal  the lack of concerted effort to obtain a healthy sexual life can cause as much unhappiness as one who has been unemployed for months/years and unable to pay the bills.

Assuming this area of ones life will resolve itself over time does nothing but offer a false sense of eventual happiness while going through life in the present unhappy, unfulfilled and missing something.

1 Comment to In sex, happiness hinges on keeping up with your peers

Ana Mercedes
April 20, 2013

That more sex makes you happier is an established result in social research (and in my own experience). A 2004- study (Blanchflower and Oswald: Money, Sex, and Happiness: An Empirical Study) even put a monetary value on it: Having sex at least once a week provides as much happiness as $50,000.

Now this new study claims that there is also a relative aspect to sex and happiness: it’s not just the absolute level of sex that matters, but happiness also comes from having more sex than others. This phenomenon of social comparison is already known from research on income and happiness. So what does this mean? If I have more sex, it should make me happy, but if everybody else is also having more sex, I am less happy? More recent happiness-and-income studies show that the benchmark might not (only) be other people but one’s own aspiration and expectations. So research on sex and happiness should next study these issues. Also, research on income shows that being paid less than your peers has not only a negative effect on happiness, but that it can also have a positive effect if high incomes for peers are seen as improving your own chances of achieving a higher income. More specifically, the negative effect is not visible for younger people. Actually, they get happier when they see the income of peers rise in anticipation of higher incomes for themselves. On the other hand, older people’s happiness is harmed by the success of others, as they already reached the peak of their careers. Is there something similar in the date for happiness and sex?

Finally, what about measurement errors? Talk is cheap, and how accurate and honest are answers to questions about sex? But the bias can go both ways. Some are probably exaggerating their sexual performance; others are concealing sexual encounters, especially extra-marital encounters or sex with escorts or other sex workers. Typically, survey data show that men report much larger numbers of sexual partners than women do, which suggests that some women have enormous numbers of sexual partners without reporting it, or that men exaggerate. In my view, it seems quite plausible that men conceal sexual encounters with escorts or prostitutes. That would also explain the strange finding in the 2004 study (Money, Sex, and Happiness) that the frequency of sex or the number of sexual partners does not increase with income. In other words: money does not buy more sex. Well, this does not coincide with my own experience.

Well, the good news is that the study confirms that more sex makes you happier. And believe me, more sex makes you definitely happier.

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